Ten Marital "Nevers" by Tommy Nelson
#1 Never Speak Rashly
Weigh your words before you speak, especially if you are feeling emotionally upset about a situation or circumstance. Back away and give your endocrine system a chance to return to normal. Always keep in mind that it's not only what you say that matters, but how and when you speak. The Book of Romance.
Very often in a marriage, a person reacts to how a person speaks far more than to what is said. An angry, belittling, or hateful tone of voice is going to bring about a response, even if what is said is rather benign.
The more benign the content of such communication, the more the statement is going to be perceived as sarcasm or cynicism, which also brings about a negative response in most people.
Proverbs 15:1 tells us, "A harsh word stirs up anger."
#2 Never Confront Your Mate Publicly
Have you ever watched or overheard a couple argue in a public place, perhaps at the table next to you in a restaurant? You feel sorry for both persons - the one who is the recipient of an angry harangue and the one who is engaging in such terrible behavior because that person doesn't realize how much embarrassment he is bringing upon himself.
Jesus taught, "If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone" (Matthew 18:15).
If you have an issue to bring up with your spouse, do so in the privacy of your home.
Article taken directly from the book, The Book of Romance by Tommy Nelson. Published by Thomas Nelson Publishing.